Once again, QuakerQuaker is the medium for an important Quaker conversation. Quaker Pagan has a lovingly crafted an appreciation of liberal Quakerism’s openness to the work of the Spirit in its many forms. The blog post contains a plea about use of language, “Christian Friends must be particularly careful when they speak of Jesus, or when they speak from the Bible.” Thankfully, Quaker Pagan doesn’t hold different standards for different Friends. She suggests that all Friends should be “bold and low”, bold in speaking what the Spirit reveals, and humble in not making claims broader than the Spirit’s message.
Jim Wilson has a response on QuakerQuaker, and the comments to both blog posts are well worth reading. I very much appreciate Quaker Pagan’s care, concern, and careful wording. She makes her request as graciously and kindly as I think anyone could. And yet…
Those of you who know me will be aware that I didn’t come to my Christian faith easily. Until I was in my 20s, I considered Christianity to be a tool used by the powerful to justify oppression of the vulnerable. Apartheid-era South Africa was the place where I saw this dynamic in action most vividly, growing up as I did in neighboring Botswana. I didn’t gain the freedom to consider a relationship with God until I encountered South African liberation theology in the late 80s. From Black evangelical Christians in South Africa, I learned that the Bible in fact tells the story of God standing with the oppressed, and in the mind of these South Africans, Christianity is best summarized in Galatians 5:1: “It is for freedom Christ has set us free. Stand firm then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”
Since then, I have continued on my spiritual journey of learning where God is in the midst of suffering. As an anti-apartheid activist initially, then a spiritual director with homeless persons (many of them working on becoming sober), and now a hospital chaplain, my spiritual compulsion is still to learn about God and suffering. There is much pain, despair, anguish, fear, tears, and feeling overwhelmed, of course. Nonetheless, I continue to be amazed when I see how often people who face oppression, addiction, illness, death, and grief talk about a God who empowers, gives joy in unexpected places, comforts, and permeates everything and breaks forth in the world with generosity, love, and spiritual abundance. The predominant theme of Christianity, as I continue to learn it, is freedom.
We Quakers tend to be quite aware of the ills of the world, the injustices, the wounds, the hurts, and we often express our outrage at the inequalities in the world, and take care not to offend. One of the things I appreciate most about Quakerism is the attention we give to this earthly life, not just the hereafter. I am an activist at heart, and I agree with the bumper sticker that says, “If you aren’t outraged, you aren’t paying attention.” But precisely because there is so much injustice, pain, and war in the world, I think we need our Quaker Meetings to provide reminders of resilience, model generosity, and above all, to reassure each other that even when all seems dark and hopeless, God is not asleep, but is active in the world “working all things together for good”. I think we need reminders, even when things seem hopeless, that God still gives us complete spiritual freedom to act with love. No matter how desperate our circumstances, we always have the choice of being in right relationship with God, and uniting with God and humans in “those things that are eternal”. We are free now, and will know even greater freedom when we unite with God after death.
Sadly, I don’t encounter as much of this spirit of freedom and abundance in Liberal Meetings as I would like. There are the troubles of the world, of course. Also, there are so many among us who have been emotionally and spiritually wounded, and in response, we thoughtfully choose our words about God with care and caution lest we offend. It is good to be concerned about offending other, of course. In his letter to the Romans, Paul is very clear that our freedom should not come at the expense of others, and we must have concern for how our actions affect our brothers and sisters. We do not have the freedom to do and say things that harm, offend, embarrass, diminish, or confuse another person. And yet we need fearless, bold, and joyful abandon so we can freely speak about our experience of God, yes, even if we sound foolish in worldly terms.
I am concerned that in this environment, Quaker Pagan’s encouragement of caution and concern will further dampen our already-too-timid talk about God. Rather than guarding our words carefully, at this time, I think we need greater emphasis on freedom to shout and sing and dance to proclaim God’s presence in our midst, yes, especially in the midst of tragedy and despair.
The way I’d like to see us balance the concerns for freedom and compassion is in to err on the side of generosity. I would like us to remind ourselves that, provided we all are mindful of the power of words to hurt, we generously encourage each other to speak freely about our experience of God. I’d like to see us all claim responsibility for our own feelings, recognizing that in community, we will almost certainly be hurt at times, and cause pain to others, no matter how hard we’re all trying to avoid it. I’d like to see us commit to lovingly speak with any person who causes us pain, and commit to use the freedom to speak to that person about the effect of his/her words, educate if needed, and forgive or ask forgiveness as appropriate.
I’d love to hear you speak freely about your experience of the Divine!
Query for prayerful consideration:
How has God been present to you in difficult times?
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July 21, 2013 at 8:16 pm
treegestalt
Well, yeah, there’s the part about you don’t hide the lamp under the basket, but set it out where everyone can see by its light… The trouble is, our words aren’t that light itself, just our testimony that we see it.
People imagine we’re just talking about ourselves; and they do know we’re saying that what they aren’t seeing themselves is — what matters the most. Even though that’s the truth, it doesn’t please them; and it doesn’t help them see any better.
I can’t imagine we’re supposed to spend our whole lives looking over our shoulders, continually asking “Is it okay for me to speak now, boss…?” We can speak freely — but not carelessly, if you see how that distinction applies. We don’t get to talk about God, in front of God, as if he weren’t present… That’s very rude, yes? Can You help us put this any better?
July 23, 2013 at 9:24 am
Randy Oftedahl
Thank you, Friend Suzanne, for reminding us that the predominant message of Christianity is freedom. So often that message is not being conveyed. More to the point: the predominant message of Jesus is freedom. How quickly we forget that we too are the captives given liberty, the prisoners set free. “To err on the side of generosity” would be a true gift. To shine the Light on our own sins, with compassion and contrition, and to be blind, totally blind, to the sins of others – what a blessing that would be! And what a wonderful message to be “bold and low,” speaking of our experiences but remaining humble in remembering that God speaks to each of us in a voice we can hear – and that means in an infinite number of ways. Thanks be to God and blessings to all!
July 25, 2013 at 4:46 am
natashawmarsh
What a generous perspective, Friend. You speak my mind. Thank you!
February 3, 2015 at 8:42 am
Molly Bishop
It is also the responsibility of the listener in Meeting for Worship to listen with love and generosity. I learned this a long time ago when I was very judgmental regarding what I considered overly sweet messages in meeting. I was so concerned that people were not grappling with injustice in our world, that when I heard a message that spoke of simple gratitude, I heard frightened inability to look at our own privilege. Then I got to know one woman who often gave such messages. She was a tireless activist! Since then I have worked to open my heart. If someone speaks lovingly of Christ, and I find an image of Goddess more compelling, when we are in Meeting for Worship, we have agreed that our concept of Christ is a universal one that could be Goddess or any other word. it’s that sweet energy of love, compassion and nudging toward something bigger and better and more sane. I love it when you tell me about your experience with this intelligence, and I am intrigued when you call it something that does not speak to me. And I nurture the gratitude that you have found an image that does speak to you, while knowing that the essence of this is the same for you and for me. It’s the words that confound us.
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